I hear women say all the time say that their mother’s voice
rings in their ears. Sometimes that’s a good thing, but more often than not
there’s a bad connotation to the comment. And I remember when, as a young
mother myself I’d hate it when my mother’s words come out of my very own
mouth. As I get older, though, I have
come to realize that what I heard her say and what was really spoken may have
been worlds apart.
When a mother says “Be careful”
- At 5 her kids hear “Mommy loves you and wants to keep you safe.”
- At 13 her kids hear “I don’t trust you to make wise decisions so I have to control your every breath."
- At 22 her kids hear “When are you going to grow up and learn to take control of your own life?”
- At 45 her kids hear “Here’s some advice. Take it or leave it.”
- At 65 her kids hear “I need you around to take care of me.”
And all the time what she’s really saying is “I love you so
please don’t leave me because I’d be lost without you.”
So the next time you get irritated at something you hear
your mom say, please stop and think about what she really meant. You just might be surprised...
Peace, Love, and BE CAREFUL!
Damama T
